Death isn’t a pleasant conversation topic however it will find each and every one of us one day so it’s best to make sure you make the most of every day before then.
This is even more evident from the information gathered by Bronnie Ware, who for many years, worked as a palliative nurse in the Australian health system. She was taking care of the terminally ill during the last 12 weeks of their lives and had the pleasure of talking to these people about their lives and more importantly what they regret.
After a while, it became evident that there were many people that had the same regrets. These were…
Doing what’s expected rather than pursing dreams
Bronnie indicated that this is the most common regret. Many believed that the fear of expectations from family, friends and even society meant that many didn’t pursue the dreams that they had long held. When you’re nearing the end of your life, it’s easier to look back and see all the things you didn’t do and wonder how your life would have changed. Many believed they would have been happier if they pursued their dreams.
Working too hard
This isn’t a hard one to believe as many New Year’s Resolutions include “working less” or “achieving a work-life-balance” or something along those words but also many of these New Year’s Resolutions go unfulfilled as life gets in the way. Many were regretful that work took more of their time and they spent less time with family and friends.
Surprisingly many said that if they had their time over they would simplify their lives so that they don’t need all that money they felt they needed to work for, so they could concentrate on spending time with people that meant the most to them.
Not speaking up
It’s interesting to note that those terminally ill were upset that they hadn’t expressed their views, spoken up or talked about their feelings more. They realised that holding in feelings and thoughts meant that they bottled their feelings that turned into resentment, hate, and other unhealthy reactions.
Not staying in contact
Many missed their friends and were disappointed that they hadn’t stayed in-touch with many of their loved friends. It shows that connections with people seem to be more important than the pursuit of money or the lifestyle expected of everyone.
Not being happy
The idea of facing death can make some have many pivotal revelations but the most interesting is that many get an understanding that happiness is a choice. With the pursuit of the next thing to make them happy, they didn’t stop to actually feel happy. You should enjoy the life you have now – smile and be happy that you are where you are. Appreciate what you have while still planning for what you want.
Many of us know that feeling of hindsight – If you could go back and do something again you’d change how you acted, what you did or maybe said, so why not learn from those that have lived it so that we never have the same regrets. Make the life that you want by setting goals and take steps to achieve them. Get yourself someone that is going to be a great coach and mentor to help you along the way as well as keep you accountable. But also smile and celebrate your achievements along the way.
Many of your goals will have a financial aspect so getting your money affairs under control is a great place to start. The best way to achieve your goals is to use the cash flow that you have in the most effective way. We at JBS want to make sure that you are hitting your life goals – but your real life goals – those things that mean the most to you; those things that will make you truly happy. Call us today to start achieving and leave regret behind.
Source Material: Bonnie penned a blog piece on her experiences and further wrote a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying – A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing.